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I know I'm going to get blasted for this, but I truly believe that the W has more power to affect this than the H.




I actually kind of agree with you. I think the HDWs sich is somewhat easier to fix for the same reason I believe that it is a worse situation to be in. The reason is it is more culturally acceptable for a woman to have a low drive. If you leave your wife because she won't meet your sexual needs, your W and those around her can easily rationalize that your needs were excessive. My H doesn't have this cultural bias to support him. If I leave him because he can't meet my sexual needs, most people probably himself included would think that there was something wrong with him, not me. The situation of being the HDW in a SSM is more shameful for the HDW than it is for a HDM because she has to wonder what is wrong with her to warrant such culturally unusual behavior from her H.

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