Quote: I know I'm going to get blasted for this, but I truly believe that the W has more power to affect this than the H.
If my HD/LD were reversed in my sitch, there is no question but that my W would get changes in our sex life from me that would last forever. I'm unable to get the same results. That's not to say that she'd be completely fulfilled by the results she got (as w/Mr. Wilson and Mr. HP), but she'd definitely be able to move us from where we are.
I won't blast you, I'll be kind I do sort of get the impression here that us W's may hold more of the cards, no matter which end we're on, but...
If your sitch was reversed, you wouldn't be the same guy you are today. I suspect that if I acted with you the way I do with my H, you would respond a little differently than he does...
But I also know I've got a LONG upwards climb ahead of me. H is very content as long as I have on a smiling face and the kids keep their room sort of clean. He's got his stash of 'women' in the closet and on the net (just pictures), with whom he doesn't have to talk, or worry about 'feelings'...and I know that unless I have nerves (and other body parts) of steel, I'm not gonna get anywhere.
I'm dealing with cultural issues too...Finnish men generally don't talk about anything, let alone admit problems in *any* area. They drink excessively (H doesn't, or I'd be out - couldn't take that on top of everything else) or shoot themselves instead.
