Quote: defining yourself as "normal" and your W as ND (no drive), is prejudicial and accusatory, and, no wonder she feels like you think she's broken. I used to do this with my W, so, you just have to work through this. The terms HD and LD are relative in nature: I have a higher drive than my W. She has a lower drive than I.
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This is irrational gibberish. Perhaps the Son of Sam was a nice guy relative to Hitler, but that doesn't mean that he was a nice guy. "Normal" isn't an adjective that is applied subjectively. It has a clear cut meaning. Perhaps there is some margin of error in determining what a normal sex drive for an adult woman might be, but that doesn't mean that wanting sex twice a year is anywhere near the peak of the normal curve. Your wife is way down in the valley, multiple standard deviations away from the norm. I don't see what any one of us on this board gains by buying into postmodern relativism when it comes to our sex lives, except perhaps the comforting feeling that we are too "nice" to call a spade a spade.
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