Wildebube, I have had pretty much the identicle dialogue that you have outlined above and share your observation about going through waves of happiness/darkness over time.
Our relationship is otherwise strong, we have no monetary concerns, kids are at college etc but our sex life diminished, then ended with the change in her hormones. Without getting into the whole HRT or herbal solutions situation, nothing works and she has given up on a "medical" change to her status. I don't blame her in anyway for her situation, but I just find it difficult to live day in day out in a happy state. I would like to find ways for ME to cope better on an ongoing basis. I do not have any expectation that my wife can provide physical intimacy apart from what would be considered a close brother/sister type relationship. So, in other words, I could be truly happy (and I believe she would also be truly happy) with our relationship if I did not become unglued with the absence of pysical intimacy.
