Bamafan, I can relate to a great sex life in the beginning and then illness taking its toll. My DH has Crohn's Disease in addition to other health problems in the past (some resolved others not).
Ill health can take a toll on a marriage that can be devastating. I want to be sympathetic to my H health problems but sometimes I don't feel he really understands the stress it has put on me.
We are struggling through it but are committed to each other, our marriage, and our family. It has caused some very heated discussions and some really pissed off feelings at times!!!
Keep posting...it truly helps to have someone to lean on who can relate to what you are going through.
I can relate also to the sex that seems to be all for him and none for me! It really has caused some tension in this household. I am currently going to counseling and I believe it is helping me.
We have been married almost 22 years and he has been really struggling with his health since 1990. We have 3 children and are about to become grandparents in about 3 weeks.
There is much to work for and I work at it everyday - sometimes I do ok and other times I am a screaming meme.
