Friday morning get call from M and she says she hopes I don't mind but she saw the job supervisor and went over to talk with him about her house and mentioned to him about no power to my ceiling fan. She said he was not happy about that either!
So I went over to the house and he came out of another house and was talking with me, I asked if they could hang the fan for me or if I needed to have the guys come all the way back down to do it? He said they would do it.
He pulled the electrician in and the electrician was pissy. Maybe job supervisor had said something to him before I got there, not sure.
He acted like we were idiots, said well the switch isn't hooked up all they had to do was hook up the switch. I said well we didn't have to do that in the other room. He said there was a fixture there, I said no it was blanked off as well.
While he was working on hooking up the switch I asked the job supervisor about there only being one switch in the front vaulted room. Before he could answer me the electrician jumped in and said defensively that they didn't know what was going in that room so only put one switch in. Now I certainly didn't mean to be stepping on his toes as I wouldn't have expected him to change the wiring diagram for the house. I know we certainly didn't when I worked for the electrical contractor.
They discussed a duplex sw and electrician said he didn't have any with him. I said I would just prefer the fan be controlled by the pull chain and the light be on the switch. The jerk walked over and turned my fan off and then turned the switch off and on and just the light was coming on. I said I know that but I want the fan on most of the time. He was not happy and he left my fan off which I can't reach it to turn it on. He asked do we have to hang this fan? Job supervisor checked with someone and got the go ahead for them to hang fan. He sort of clomped out and talked with job supervisor and then sent his helper over to hang the fan.
I left as he was working on stuff. Told job supervisor I would be back later. They did get my fan up and changed the wiring on the other one, but also knocked a spot on the wall, probably with the ladder.
It all sort of left me with a bad taste. I didn't want to go back later. FB went with me and the furniture guys got there shortly after I did so I had a sofa to sit on and wait on the refrigerator.
It came lots later so FB and I wandered around the house and just sort of got more familiar with it.
That evening went over and M and I opened the champagne, she toasted my new house and my new beginning in life.
Then we sat and talked got to know the history of each other a bit more. Discussed emotions and feelings and going through a divorce. Not a party atmosphere but not sad just talking. We also discussed rearranging my furniture.
After she left I did some vacuuming as I didn't want to leave till the dishwasher finished running.
Pam
"We must be willing to let go of the life we had planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us"
Saturday B and I took some stuff over and let her meet M, then I worked on finishing the vacuuming, swept and moped the floor. The stuff I use to mop the floor here left what looks like water spots on my new vinyl. I guess I will try going over it with just water and then drying it to see how it looks then.
Rearranged my sofa and love seat the way M and I had discussed the night before and I like it better, it opens the room up more than the way I had it to start.
Brought over my craft project boxes from last summer and my torch lamp so the living room is coming right along. Also moved some of my plants to the new house.
Then B and I came home and didn't get much done here at all, other than plan what I wanted to move on Sunday.
Sunday morning had e-mail from M that if I wanted to go to breakfast to give her a call. That is usually my grocery morning but decided to be different and go to breakfast so we did. It was nice.
Then I came home and stacked and boxed more stuff to move. Before I went back over got call that mom and dad were there with my bedroom suite. So now the bedroom is mostly complete.
They left the cargo trailer at my house so I can put stuff in it and we will take it over later this week, but things I can move by myself in my van I am going to keep moving this week.
Pam
"We must be willing to let go of the life we had planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us"
Now if I could just forget the past 2 years, life would be great!
Not sure how I do that but working on using thought stopping. Till eventually it becomes a habit not to think of David, Janice or Denise and the mess my life was the past two years!
The kids and I have a new start, and the way to go is forward, going backwards never gets you anywhere!
Besides M is a great example of rebuilding after a terrible mess!!!!
I am really glad she is my neighbor and my friend.
Pam
"We must be willing to let go of the life we had planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us"
Quote: Now if I could just forget the past 2 years, life would be great!
I used to wish for the same thing. But now, I look at the learning and growth that came wrapped in the hurt, and am slowly accepting that it had to happen to me, for me to have become the better person I think I am today. You too seem to have come a long way, it is sad that the growth would not have been possible without the pain
I do feel I have learned and grown a lot. I would just prefer to have done it a less painful way.
I hope your peace gets here soon. I want the big hole in my life where David was to go away.
I am also emotional this week. Packing is depressing. Leaving PK more so.
But I still hope to get a lot of stuff moved this week.
My sister called this morning and let me know my mom is having her horse put down tomorrow and I haven't called mom. I know I need to, that there is nothing I can say that will help but just to know I am thinking of her.
Pam
"We must be willing to let go of the life we had planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us"
Quote: I do feel I have learned and grown a lot. I would just prefer to have done it a less painful way.
Hello Pam!! I couldn't agree more. I've had this exact sentiment countless times. Then I think...what if this is what it had to TAKE to wake me up? I'd like to think not, but....
Girl you sound so good it's just...fantastic! The post from Ellie about D wanting to be "friends"...RIGHT ON THE MONEY (physicians have some psychatric training you know, and this is one sharp Doc!)
And Sage's reminder of the incredible "positive" of your countless 180's, vastly improved insight, impulse control, self soothing...I could go on and on....
He asked do we have to hang this fan? Job supervisor checked with someone and got the go ahead for them to hang fan. He sort of clomped out and talked with job supervisor and then sent his helper over to hang the fan. 
