Quote: AND, I know it was a challenge for you to get out there and do that sofa shopping so clap, clap, clap (giving you a BIG hand!) -- AWESOME GIRLFRIEND!!!
Thank you Ms. Sage, I figured you would know how difficult something like that would be for me.
Although not like it would have been in the past had I been forced to do something like that, maybe I AM going to grow up after all! If I do I wanna be Sage! Wise, Caring and Logical.
Pam
"We must be willing to let go of the life we had planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us"
Gave the insurance man contact info on D. That gets that responsibility and stress off of my shoulders.
This needs handled and I can't usually reach him, then he has questions and I ask the insurance guy and have to try to get back with him. Major Pain in the B*tt!!!!
Nothing new, normal procrastination cr*p but this way I am out of the middle.
Still no news on a closing.
Pam
"We must be willing to let go of the life we had planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us"
David called and we talked. He said I was trying to fight. I said, no I am very much trying to not fight but to explain.
I said I think from the level of frustration I sense on your end I am not making myself clear and would also guess that I am not understanding you either.
So we didn't get ourselves explained, but we agreed that we were neither one understanding the other one. We did do our usual tortuous conversation of not understanding the other one first but at least ending this way is an improvement for us and I thanked him for calling.
We discussed the insurance. We neither one know too much about home owners insurance. I asked him some questions I had and he said he wasn't real sure either but that he would talk to the insurance man and ask some questions.
We also discussed the house refinancing info I had gotten and he plans to call that lady and speak with her as well on the closing costs going on the back end. I said I really didn't understand what that meant. He wasn't sure either.
Pam
"We must be willing to let go of the life we had planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us"
So the past 48 hours have been a bit of a test. First B didn't sleep well, then she was still asleep when I got up so I let her sleep till almost time to leave. Then she seemed very disoriented, didn't want to eat and fell 3 times.
I thought it must be a lot worse, so called the vet's office that I always take her too. Her regular vet has left there and opened a clinic, (which just opened Monday), in her hometown. The regular clinic couldn't see B till Thursday because they are now short handed.
So I call her vet and she can see her but she is very worried about B and thinking it isn't good. She said she was open till 7 and she would wait on me. Good thing. I rushed home and got B, gassed the car and then there was a wreck on the bridge and we crawled across the bridge traffic bumper to bumper which I don't like to drive in that kind of traffic, especially if I don't know where I am going, which I didn't. B is crying the whole time, while stopped on the bridge she is almost screaming and I am thinking she is in terrible pain. That she does have a tumor and it is pressing on her somewhere. She seemed to not be opening her right eye good and her hair was all standing up on her face on that side. So I'm definitely thinking I am going to have to put her to sleep if I ever get to the vet's office.
That was the longest hour and a half drive I think I have ever made, she cried the whole way there, so by the time I get to the vets office I have done some crying as well.
I had called David that morning to let him know she wasn't doing well at all if he wanted to see her again and that I was taking her to the vet that evening. Let him know he was welcome to go with me if he wanted. He asked what time like he might be interested and said maybe.
He didn't show up or call, didn't e-mail to check on her till noon today.
He leaves his cell phone off all the time now so I am guessing he has one from the company for work as he used to leave his personal one on because of work. I called his cell on the drive down and asked if he could help me dig as it was supposed to rain and I wanted to bury her before the rain rather than after the rain.
He never responded to that message at all. So I am sort of like Pam the other day. His total lack of demonstration of concern for Breeze really cuts to the quick and leads me to feel differently about him.
The vet hugged me when I got there and really went over B good. She had the other clinic fax her B's records that day. We ended up changing her medication some and she gave me some pain pills strong enough that she had to take my SS# for me to get them from her. Only to give on an as needed basis as she thought maybe B was more disoriented from the medication than anything else. She had me stop one of the meds.
So thank goodness on the drive home B slept for most of the trip. Of course I was at the vets for a long time as we talked and worked on B and talked some more. Did another expensive blood test to see if it could be fungal as if it is it wouldn't respond to the medication we have her on.
She said there were no obvious signs yet to say for sure there is a tumor in her sinus, but the only way to completely rule it out was to take her to a specialist, give her anesthetic and scope her. I said and if we find something then what? Nothing really to do and I am not going to put B through that at her age. She is almost 16 now.
Right when B woke up and started crying again it started raining so hard I could barely see the road, especially in the dark with headlights all around me.
We made it home though, then she didn't sleep last night either. I got to sleep about 2 hours before time to get up to go to work.
Then won't go into details, other than to say my morning started really YUCKY!
But got to work and was feeling better. But still feeling pretty different about David, especially as no call or e-mail to even check on B since he hadn't went with us.
So I called the realtor that handles the sale of the subdivision houses for the builder where I bought my home. I knew he did a lot with development property. I had been told by several people that is probably what will happen with D and I's house is it will be torn down and the property developed.
That realtor immediately said he knew someone that he was pretty sure would be interested in either putting townhouses or duplexes in here. He was going to drive by and check the property out. I figured if PK was going to go that route that D and I might as well be the ones to benefit. Like this is her last gift to us before she dies, the last of our dreams gone.
I did leave D a vm that I was checking on killing PK and would let him know what I found out. No response from him but I will e-mail him with info when the realtor lets me know.
So anyway that totally depresses me. I KNOW I get way too emotional and attached to things. I am not really sure how to change that in myself.
Then my realtor called and she had my closing scheduled for 10 am tomorrow morning. That is 9 am my dad's time and that time of day will really mess up his work schedule. I wasn't too happy she didn't check to see if that worked before scheduling it. So she said check with my dad and let her know then. So of course I can't reach my dad and I have already brought myself down over PK. Figured I just needed to get out the sooner the better so called her and said let's just go with the 10 am Thursday.
We scheduled to meet at 1 today to do the final walk through of my house. It is cool. That went pretty well.
I asked how soon will I know how much we need to bring to closing. She said should know later today. I said well that time in the morning will be a problem for my dad if he doesn't have time to go to bank today.
Then finally get info and the mortgage company I think messed everything up. They had the amount of my down payment wrong, they had me set up to escrow when I said I didn't want too and they charged me for the appraisal that they had already charged me for a month or so before.
It is late and I figure no way are we going to get this worked out. So plan to be at work tomorrow.
Right as I get home the realtor calls and says her and the closing co have figured what we need to bring to change the things that need changed. Except that still left me doing the escrow and paying the appraisal fee again. Needless to say I was NOT impressed. But she was determined that we were going to close tomorrow. I think she is anxious to finally get paid and be rid of me!
So tried to call dad, didn't get him. He calls back and hour later and I tell him what they are doing and the amount they think we need the cashiers check for tomorrow. He isn't impressed either and will have to wait till the bank opens tomorrow so he can get the cashiers check, then he has a half hour drive to get to the closing so no way will he be here at 10 am our time.
When the realtor called back and said the mortgage co is fixing everything we asked for, I explained to her again, that dad has to go to the bank in the morning and he is an hour behind us. She doesn't see it as a problem that the closing is scheduled for 10 and he won't be there till between 10:30 - 11:00, I have no idea what time I should show up. Maybe at the 10 as maybe I can get some of the other papers signed before he gets there with the check.
So that was my day. Crazy!!!!!!!
Plus there are light bulbs missing at my house and I think one of the fixtures is the wrong finish, I have to straighten that all out as I ordered the fixtures.
Pam
"We must be willing to let go of the life we had planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us"
You are in the home stretch! Good luck with your closing. Don't let them bully you in to signing if you aren't comfortable with their resolution to the inconsistancies. If they need to fix the language, escrow, appraisal double-charge - then make them fix it. There is no legal basis to charge you twice. Bring proof of payment with you and they will shut up.
Just think, when this is all done, you and the kids can go and relax in your new home and start making new memories together.
Sorry about your pup - but if she is in pain she needs you to do the humane thing. Celebrate her life with you and don't prolong her death any more. She would thank you for that. I know it is hard to lose one of your best friends like that - I bawled when we put our last lab down.
Oh Pam, I am praying for you today - that all goes well this morning with your closing and that the pain your pup is feeling can be eased.
Take care...
totite
"Accentuate the positive, eliminate the negative..."
If I do I wanna be Sage! 
Wise, Caring and Logical. 
That went pretty well.