The friendship deal with CHL is definitely a struggle for me at times.
Plus he has been pretty sick again. That was one of the reasons he gave me for going through with the divorce was his health was suffering. Doesn't seem his health is any better after being divorced for over a month.
I have spent part of the past week arranging utilities and insurance for my new house. Getting my vehicles transfered to my new insurance as that gives me a discount on the house insurance.
CHL & I's car insurance was due today. Wednesday I let him know the insurance guy let me know I had to go ahead and move mine to get the best rate on my house.
So he was just going to pay the bill we have here with all 3 vehicles on it and then let them refund him. Now I am pretty sure those of you that have followed us know what a procrastinator he can be.
Shoot the insurance still owes us half of a new roof on this house and I'm sure we'll never get that now.
So I said would you like for me to get you a quote from this guy I'm going with? He said well isn't enough time is there? I said I think so as he is just now doing my vehicles.
So got quote and he said no problem on time frame. CHL e-mailed the info the guy needed on his car and Friday I stopped by his office, signed my papers and picked up CHL's for him to sign.
Am also getting a quote on the insurance on PK as his rate seems considerably better than what we have now.
CHL has thanked me, he had intended to come over and sign his papers but he sounded horrible on the phone Friday and said he didn't even go to work on Thursday. That is highly unusual for him to miss a whole day of work.
In his thank you e-mail he said he would either be over this weekend to pick up insurance papers or next week. Said he would probably see my house then, either take a long lunch or take off early one day.
This I struggled with as my ASSumption for the reason he can't come and see my house in an evening is he spends all of his evenings with J.
I am unsure how to handle this sitch. If I want to maintain the friendship I guess I need to accept what he is willing to give and not wonder what he is doing with his other time.
On the other hand does that leave me feeling still second fiddle per say, to her?
For me to do the friendship I think it needs to not be obvious when he is being careful to get back to Louisville and not stay over here too long. Maybe she has told him she doesn't want him to see me?
No clear ideas. Just confussion.
Mostly have decided to drop worrying about it and focus on decluttering here and getting ready to move to new home.
Pam
"We must be willing to let go of the life we had planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us"
