Quote: Plus, I wonder why he wants to stay friends if he hasn't forgiven me for stuff during the marriage?
Is he just saying that so I will be easier to work with on the house?
Pam - I think he just tells people what they want to hear so he won't have to deal with the consequences of his choices. He's a weenie. He wasn't man enough to tell you he was having an affair, wasn't man enough to tell you he was going through with the divorce, and isn't man enough now to point out to you that friendship with him while he is with J is probably not going to happen. And he hasn't treated you like a friend would. He'll tell himself he's just trying to spare you pain, but the truth is, he's just trying to spare HIMSELF the pain of seeing how much he has hurt you.
You deserve better friends. He hurt you a lot by giving you hope when he had no intention of working on the R - by coming on the boards here when he was still continuing his affair with J. He's not a man. He's a weenie. And he's NOT your friend - you deserve better friends, who treat you with respect, who tell you the truth even if it is uncomfortable, who own up to their own part in things.
