Quote: Where is the contest to be held? I think that we could tape a counter to our hips and each time we came, clicked off another one... Of course for accuracy, having an impartial person verifying the actual numbers might make for an even higher rate...
LOL. I think we could have the contest right here on the BB, if we went by the honor system. It would have to be the opposite of the contest the characters on Seinfeld held. Unfortunately this would mean HP wouldn't be able to contribute on the girl's side since that kind of contest is against her religion. Also, I think that we shouldn't count multiple orgasms because then it would just be a complete blow-out. Since I am naturally curious about scientific matters like this, I decided to test my own recovery time in the shower this morning. You can chalk up 2 for the girl's team already. (If we were counting multiples, it would be 9, so that is why I decided that would be unfair )
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
I feel the same way Choc does: Mrs. HD’s attitude and remarks are quite simply unbelievable. But having said that, I couldn’t help but return to something that more than one of us has mentioned before.
Haven’t a number of us questioned why our LDS’s are so violently opposed to us going outside of the M when they, themselves, have expressed that they’re not interested? Haven’t we questioned the, “I don’t want it, but nobody else can have it” attitude? Haven’t we bemoaned the attitude of I don’t want sex, so you have to be celibate? Now, here’s a W who expresses exactly what we’ve said is sensible – and we’re incredulous. I have no interest in going outside of my M, but with the fallout from the EA I had and the (false) accusations of two PA’s, it’s clear that W holds to the, “I don’t want it so you can’t have it” school of thought.
In any case, I can’t imagine anyone in a marginally healthy M having the kind of attitude that Mrs. HD expressed. HD, I wish you luck.
Years ago my H actually told me if I ever found someone I wanted to be with to please call and let him know I would not be home so he didn't worry about me. Oh, and he asked me to please not bring home any diseases.(like we were doing anything anyway) I seriously don't think he meant it. He's a practical man, but I can't imagine anyone could mean that.
HD - Do you honestly think she would be ok with you obtaining the services of a prostitute?
I'm so envious already, since it's now been 21 months and counting since my H touched me and he never will again. I'm sure that with some time, I could find a replacement to make happy, though. This contest might be incentive to go out and find a partner for the ocassion..... Anyone know someone who is tall, black hair, blue eyed, neatly trimmed facial hair, with, er, special equipment? LOL That would be nice, but really, I'd deal with a tall man that has the urge to merge regularly.....and with passion.
Not count the multiples? Woman, you are making the rules tough to follow and that's not fair. I adore the multiples and consider them to be fair in the count department. So you are just counting the "big ones" and not all of the exquisite little ones? Now we have to define the "big ones.
I am sorry, HD. Maybe she was just trying to "win" the debate without actually thinking about her true feelings. As a lawyer she probably knows how to defend a client who she finds morally repellent. She might feel that the "go to a prostitute" ploy helps her argument and yet still really detest the idea of you actually doing it.
This whole prostitution issue is another illustration of the complexity of the problem facing the HDW. Women, even HDW never hire male prostitutes. On the one hand, you could say the reason this is true is because they could always get it for free. I think the real reason a woman would never hire a male prostitute is that women need a sense of male desire in order to be really aroused. If a woman paid for it, she wouldn't be nearly as turned on as if she thought the guy really wanted it. This is also why I don't like having to initiate sex most of the time.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
Quote: HD - Do you honestly think she would be ok with you obtaining the services of a prostitute?
I'm not willing to share such information with her, in order to find out. If I had used a prostitute, which I am not admitting I have, I would have to say that, although it might feel nice, the emotional connection was, of course, not there, and the experience lacked any meaning (if of course such an experience had occurred, which I am not admitting has occurred). If such an experience had occurred, it would merely have educated me on the need I have for an emotional connection in the context of a committed marital relationship, and the emptiness of sex without such a connection.
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Quote: I'm so envious already, since it's now been 21 months and counting since my H touched me and he never will again. I'm sure that with some time, I could find a replacement to make happy, though. This contest might be incentive to go out and find a partner for the ocassion.....
There is no need to be envious. I was kind of joking, but I was suggesting a partner-free contest. I suggested that I could probably orgasm 12x in one day. Since I am possessed of endless curiousity, I now "need" to know if this is true. My H who would probably be of little help in testing this hypothesis is out of town, so I must rely on my own resources. If anyone knows of a valid study that has been made on this topic, I would be interested to know the results.
I don't think multiples are fair because IMO Barney proposed this as a Girls vs. Boys contest and though men can occasionally experience a sort of multiple orgasm, I don't believe they could possibly have one without a partner.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
I agree that the multiples would not be fair to the fellas, but to satisfy the scientific experiment and our own curiosity, maybe it should be a separate catagory for the ladies of the BB?
A partner free contest? I've been partner free for too long the way it is already.... Tired of toys and imaginary playmates, I want the real thing.... * pout, pout *
I have no idea if studies have been done on this topic but Masters and Johnson or Kinsey might be a good place to start researching this information... I'm sure that there are studies out there..
Men can have multiples with one partner but it is rare.
HD, I think that conversation with your wife was disgusting. I think she had it intentionally to show you how base and awful your desires are. I believe you should counter it by telling her that you have not sought out an outside partner because if you found someone to love and accept that side of you, you would likely fall in love with them and for the time being, your heart belongs to HER.
What's with this ice queen persona she wears? Is she really that unfeeling and non-understanding about making love and what it entails?
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