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But are you sure you want to accept mercy f**ks? One thing I perversely admire about my wife is that I know she wouldn't have sex with me out of pity or just to try to shut me up. On this issue she has integrity.

Hell, if I was offered a mercy f**k, I might take it. But I hope I would refuse. I want way more than sex.




I think there is more than one variety of "mercy f*ck" from the woman's point of view. In my current relationship, I am unfortunately the pursuer/initiator most of the time. When I was young and single, this was rarely the case and I would have to plead guilty to giving the occasional "mercy [censored]". My motivation for doing this would be that I felt a certain empathy for their hornyness, rather than that I felt particularly horny myself.

The best analogy I can offer for the different ways a woman might give you a "mercy [censored]" is as follows. If a child came up to a woman and said "I'm hungry" depending on their relationship and her emotional state, she could respond in a number of ways. If she was hungry too, the two of them might go eat a meal together. If she wasn't hungry, but was feeling loving or just kind, she would feel empathy for the child's hunger and be emotionally motivated to fix it something to eat. If she was feeling anxious or harassed, she might be a bit gruff with the child and maybe just slap together an unappealing snack. Of course if she was feeling alienated or like there wasn't any food in the kitchen or like the kid should be on a diet or she had never experienced hunger herself, then the kid wouldn't get fed at all.

Of course for HD me the occasional "mercy f*ck" I offered rarely stayed in that mode for long, because I'm the kind of women who is bound to start nibbling herself if she starts making food for anyone. The interesting thing is that because I was so HD myself and also very likely to feel inclined to be "nice" to men who were sexually aroused, I was forced to be pretty reserved or even "b*tchy" in any initial encounters with a man, so I probably seemed very LD superficially.


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