Quote: She said, "You shouldn't be doing that. You just had surgery."
Resistance #1.
Quote: I could tell from the look on her face that she had thought she was "off the hook" this weekend due to my surgery.
Ahh, the dreaded "look on her face." Absolutely KILLS us HD'ers! Resistance #2.
Quote: She rejected me that afternoon and evening, indicating that she was too tired.
Resistance #3/Rejection
Quote: But Sunday morning came, and I initiated by touching her, cuddling, etc., and she finally responded.
By your using the word "finally," I'm assuming that Resistance #4 came across, at least initially.
Quote: W: Well, I just want to let you know that I don't feel the same connection as a result of sex, like you do.
Final downer.
I guess this is where I have had so many problems, and why I've finally given up, which I know isn't right, but I just HAVE. This scenario could have EASILY been me and my wife, and in fact we've had two very similar encounters on out-of-town trips, one of which was a B&B. I can't help but feel like IF I tell her in a conversation (or ten, or twelve) that sex is reallly, REALLY important to me...
... and IF I take her out of town, to get her away from the stresses -- real or imagined -- of her day-to-day life...
... and IF I initiate . . .
... and IF I hold onto myself thru her initial resistance, rejection, and that godawful, knife-right-thru-my-heart look on her face . . .
... I just MIGHT get to make love to my beautiful wife, the Only One I want to be with. And then, she'll make some comment afterwards.
If THIS is what it takes to maintain SOME kind of ML life, how is it worth it?
