Yes, it's true. Hairdog got some action from W for the 2nd time this year. I showed up Friday night and we had a very nice dinner at a lakeside restaurant. I was on my own much of Saturday, as she had some classes to attend, and Saturday afternoon she was about to take a late afternoon nap when I started getting "randy." She said, "You shouldn't be doing that. You just had surgery." I told her, "Ah, but I got clearance from the doctor, and I'm doing much better." I could tell from the look on her face that she had thought she was "off the hook" this weekend due to my surgery. She rejected me that afternoon and evening, indicating that she was too tired.
But Sunday morning came, and I initiated by touching her, cuddling, etc., and she finally responded. The actual act didn't last that long, as expected, due to the sensory overload problem, but it was still enjoyable.
Sunday night she was in the kitchen and I said, "I love you," to her. She responded, "You're only saying that because you got sex this morning." Me: No, I'm saying that because I love you, as always, but as a matter fact, I do feel a closer emotional connection with you as a result of us making love this morning. W: Well, I just want to let you know that I don't feel the same connection as a result of sex, like you do.
This, of course, was a downer, but then I PM'd it this way: She ML to me, which is what I have been telling her I wanted in order to increase the EC. My EC with her is stronger. I should not expect her EC with me to increase as a result of sex, as she has told me as much many times. Her EC towards me increases as a result of me being attentive to her needs, listening to her, caring about her feelings, etc. I can only increase her EC with me by continuing to be a good guy, something I strive for every day. I can't be perfect (especially not according to her standards) but I can strive towards perfection.
All in all, I'd call it a success, even though it wasn't mind-blowing, heart-stopping love making. The longest journey begins with a single coitus, right?
