Hey Azure~~~ Sorry to hear about the papers arriving, but glad you had a friend there with you.
I think your recent interactions with ex (or DXH as you say... )are interesting. As long as you can handle them emotionally I think it is fine to continue them. Maybe you will learn more that will help you grow and heal.
I had dinner with ex tonight (I actually posted on my thread...can you believe?? ) and I said something to him like "some things are only meant to last for so long. I think that is the case for you and me". If you really believe that (and I do now...), I think it makes the other person more willing to be around you because it lessens the guilt....... Just my two cents.
HUGS to you!
Happiness is like a butterfly: the more you chase it, the more it will elude you, but if you turn your attention to other things, it will come and sit softly on your shoulder.... (thoreau)