Azure, So you let go of the end of the rope and it feels like the rope has just pulled away from you and there is no way to take hold of it? You must really feel down. I truely am sorry that you have to go through this. You have really taken an emotional beating these last couple of months.
I went through a really bad time last year when W started up with OM. I felt like I had been ridden over by a truck. I had invested 28 years in our M and my W didn't even seem to care. I wasn't just hurt and sad. I was angry! I told her make up your mind. It is either him or me and she could see in my face that she had to decide right then. I got her back, but it wasn't the same as before. I finally got so unhappy I asked her for a D. It wasn't until then that she started treating me better.
What I am trying to say here is that sometimes he have to stick up for ourselves. Sometimes we have to take big chances. That is probably one of the only ways our sitchs are the same. I do think I know a little of how you feel. Big HUG!
I hope something good happens in your R. I guess if you go dark now, you will find out something about your H. Either he will reach out to you or not. I feel you need to give him a little time now to see what he does.
Gather your friends around you now, Azure. Don't stay home alone. That could make you depressed. Plan something fun with friends. You really do need that right now.
Ron
My new goal #1. Find happiness and hold onto it. Forget everything else. It doesn't matter. (Happiness helpers: Respect, Friendship, Humor, Music, Passionate Sex)