I don't know if sharing my MB thoughts is going to help anyone, but here I go anyways.
I usually think of my W and I in fantasy situations, ones that could "never happen" in real life (either because we're not able to physically do what I am thinking of, or because it's illegal!). This helps me to get away from the reality that ML is usually the "same old same old" when it happens. It also lets me do whatever I want with my W (believe me, there are things that we've tried ONCE and never again that I really liked).
For example, I have this exhibitionist tendency... so I think of W and I ML in public where we might get caught (on a large beach blanket, for instance, or in our front yard). I have this B&D tendency... so I think of using various sex toys on my W. I have this weird-ass voyeuristic tendency... so I think of watching my W MB, unbeknownst to her.
In each of these scenarios, it doesn't matter how "real life" is at the moment. It matters that I'm thinking about things and feeling good. In the end, I never feel disappointed.
