Quote: I hope you don't mind, but I'd like to ask the other HDS's here - how is it that you do start visualizing about having (great) sex with your partner? Is this something that came easy for you? Did you start visualizing before you started working on your R, or was it just that once things got started, the EC grew, and it became easier?
I'm surprised that it came easily to me (pun unintended). I just imagined myself in situations with my wife that I would find erotic with any attractive woman. It helps that I don't bear any hatred for my wife, at least not right now. And I think I am chanelling a part of her that she hasn't shown me in a long time - the girl who laughed with joy when I took her virginity, the girl who gave me a BJ in her parents living room when her parents were only two rooms away, the girl who made love to me in the back of my Datsun hatchback at the drive-in theater.
I don't expect fantasies to come true, but that's part of what makes them fantasies.
Best wishes,
Tony
"If we will be quiet and ready enough, we shall find compensation in every disappointment." Henry David Thoreau
