I understand what you said about the block. I hope you don't mind, but I'd like to ask the other HDS's here - how is it that you do start visualizing about having (great) sex with your partner? Is this something that came easy for you? Did you start visualizing before you started working on your R, or was it just that once things got started, the EC grew, and it became easier?
I ask, because in the past few weeks, my H has become friendlier (we're taking baby steps here), but I find myself having trouble accepting that. I feel that if I could imagine us together, it might help, but I too have a block.
I'm not sure if it's because I'm afraid the change won't last, or if I've become so used to 'living on my own', being the ignored spouse, that I'm actually afraid of change, or afraid what I'll have to do...but, have any of you had to deal with this block, and how do you?
