For me, I think the hardest part of this is letting go of the anger and desperation to be able to create these new fantasies. I don't have much recent memory to work with. When we do manage to kiss for 15 seconds straight, then it becomes much easier.
But maybe this really is the direction I should be trying...I'm going to have to let go of some of this at some point regardless.
And yes, a single step is a very good thing indeed. In the past, we've never managed to let sex become the issue that we discuss in therapy.
