I understand and I know he has said apart of him wants to work on it and I am trying to giv ehim his space. I dont ask to do anything I wait for him to invite me which has seemed to work for now. THe thing that gets me so upset is taht he never said aword to me abut how he felt for 1.5 years and I would outright ask him how he was feeling if he needed anything if he needed to talk etc..he would just say he would get through it when it bothered him.
