Thanks for the input :-) It's not that I mind putting in the extra effort...well I did mind the idea at first until I realized the need I wasn't fullfilling for my H. The main thing that's frustrating me right now (although not too much mind you) is that he couldn't/wouldn't tell me....and as I've said previously he may not have even know that a slightly untidy home was making him as uncomfortable as it is. See...I believe I'm a very rational, sensible, logical woman...I don't blow up in a rage if he tells me something unpleasant (sure I may not like it but I am not prone to angry fits of temper)...I'm just frustrated that if he's aware that this makes him uncomfortable that he didn't feel he could talk to me about it. But like I've said...he may not know that.
Now that I'm aware that this is a need of his I can take the steps necessary to make his home environment as pleasant/comfortable/homey as possible...and believe me I intend to do that. Now that I've had my little epiphany as to his needs I don't mind a bit taking the extra effort/time to make sure things are in order....because now I'm not viewing this as I'm having to clean up after everyone....it's that I'm making an extra effort to do something loving for my husband...just to make him happy.
I hope that all makes sense...it sure did in my head
