I can only speak for myself here. Nothing too "alpha Male" or overly analytical, just me, ol' Chocolateeyes, telling you how I feel about this issue.
I have four kids. Four kids, a dog, a cat and a bird, and a house that is ALWAYS chaotic and cluttered and messy. It drives me nuts. I do WAY more than most husbands, but my wife really doesn't get the kids to help her and without that, she can't keep up, as it is a lot.
It makes me feel like I don't want to come home, like I can't enjoy a peaceful home as a haven, a respite from my highly stressful job.
And, since I know that this DOESN'T come easy for her, if she WERE to make the extra effort to make it nice and neat daily, I would probably walk on hot coals for her. Clean the garage, slay her dragons, and wash her feet.
I also would "amen" the idea about all I'd REALLY need is one room where things stayed tidy and QUIET.
Realizing I'm sounding like Ward Cleaver, but hey -- you asked,
