You are voicing almost verbatim a conversation I had with myself last night. Once I stopped fuming about the fact that I thought I was going to have to do soo much extra work...it dawned on me that I was guilty of not meeting one of his needs...unknowingly so, but guilty of it regardless. I'm making the effort because I love him and I want to meet his needs...not because I think if I do this, then he'll do that. The most I'm actually hoping for, now that I have this little piece of what I consider to be important information is that it may start the ball rolling for change...which it will, whether he changes or not..I will.
I think the thing that wears on my nerves the most isn't really the fact that I need to take on the "typical" female roles in the marriage...cooking, cleaning, child care etc., I'm ok with that. It's really the fact that he couldn't/wouldn't simply tell me that's what he'd like...but as I've mentioned before it's possible he didn't realize that himself...and verbal communication is one of the things he's trying to work on.
Anyway...I'm with you girlie...whatever it takes!
Hmmm...does that mean I have to wear pearls and heels when I'm cleaning ?
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