I think this may work for you in the same way that losing weight worked for me. Even though your H hasn't said that he doesn't want to sleep with you because you don't clean house, this may be what he's telling himself as a way to rationalize his behavior. He will be happy because you did something to please him and he will no longer be able to use it as an excuse to avoid meeting your needs.(It's kind of interesting that the word "slut" also means slovenly woman. . Please take this kindly, as it is coming from a woman who just bribed her children to do the housework with Ben & Jerry's)

"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver