All I can say is Good Luck. I bust my butt keeping the house clean, making dinners, etc., for my W so that all she needs to do when she gets home is change into her pajamas. Guess what she does? She changes into her pajamas, plants herself in front of the tv, and ignores me. No compliments, not even any acknowledgment that I've done anything. And she can still use all the excuses she's always used: too stressed, too tired, too angry at me, etc.
The answer for me was NOT to outdo myself on cleaning, etc. It might be the answer for you, as they say: your mileage may vary. I'm still looking for the answer to my sitch. I think it is to just continue to be direct. One day she will hear me. And yes, I've tried the 180 before of not putting any pressure on her. It just makes her happy, and the idea of sex still never comes into her head. At least I'm not nagging her. But then, after a month or two of no pressure, and I ask her, she says I am ALWAYS pressuring her, even when I am NOT pressuring her, because she KNOWS I'm THINKING about sex.
Sorry...venting here. Hope your cleaning tactic works, GEL.
