Enlightened - Do you have a copy of Divorce Busting? It could help you, but it might be even more important for your husband to read it. When Michele talks about how marriages can survive after affairs, she says "If you and your spouse go through the pain together, you can get to the other side." I'm afraid that if he WON'T discuss the affairs, he is not going through the pain with you. You may have too much resentment to create a workable marriage if you two don't work through your very understandable anger TOGETHER. If he would agree to couples counseling, it's very important to find someone GOOD, so consider asking Michele for a recommendation in your area. I can tell you have a lot of pain and anger, and I feel very bad for you. Good luck, and take care.
