In need of support and opinions

[SolidMechanic]

She called me twice today. I am amazed by her need to maintain constant polite contact despite her seeming indifference towards our current problem.

You shook her up by taking a stand. It's a good sign that she wants to talk, even if she doesn't know what to say. You mentioned in a previous post that you are breaking through the gridlock, but I don't agree. I think you two are at the point of recognizing that you are in gridlock, but you don't know how to get out. That's why you are both so uncomfortable right now.

So your wife likes to party, but you yearn for intimacy. Can you meet her half way? Go out and party with her. Dance, drink, socialize, make merry with her. Maybe you can start breaking gridlock with her. Also, if you are concerned with her drinking, you can get a better idea about whether there is a serious problem.

SM