It sounds like she thinks you're smothering her. Are you?
Quote: She called back later and told me that she doesn't want to be controlled, that I need to find some hobbies and get out of the house once in a while myself. She is feeling too much pressure to just "sit around the house with me" and she can't and won't do that. She needs to be busy all of the time.
This doesn't mean that she can't be married to you. It's a matter of where priorities lie. Her priorities at this point in time are not in sync with yours. Give it time.
Quote: It seems that I view a marriage as the primary focus of my life. I like to come home after work and be close with my wife (talk, cook, walk, watch TV, or just be in the same room). I feel like she views this marriage as the thing she falls back on when the party is over or she doesn't have any other plans.
So you've told her this?
Quote: I feel like we're slowly breaking the gridlock here. W keeps expressing that she is running out of patience with the awkwardness and pain. She's never been one to hang around long when things get tough, so I am preparing for her to give up soon.
It's OK to disagree. She doesn't have to like you as long as she's committed to being your W and developing the R and the M. If she's not putting a little effort into figuring out what YOU want and need, then she's not being the W that you need. You don't have to walk away, but you shouldn't have to settle for that either.
