In need of support and opinions

[SolidMechanic]

I don't want to live my life without sex, and it seems that this is the real issue behind our current situation.

Let me preface this advice by saying I don't really know anything, so take this for what it is worth.

This is about way more than sex. It is about whether two people can really be close to one another. Your wife seems to be doing what she can to sabotage your marriage. Maybe having a new voice validate her gives her a thrill that she can't get from you anymore. When you tell her you like how she looks in that dress (you do tell her that, don't you?) she may not believe it anymore. After all, your married, and you are supposed to say stuff like that.

The sexual frustration that has been building up in you is a barrier to her. If you want her back, you have to tear down these barriers. But it is not enough. You cannot change her. That is the most important thing you should realize. Change yourself. Be the best human being you can possibly be. Have faith. That's all you can do.

Best regards,

Tony