Quote: The significant thing was that afterwards he was SO loving and kind and thankful and appreciative of me. I have no idea why but I tend to think that he was relieved that I did not take his initial lack of interest personally, as I normally tend to do.
I have found that it is MUCH MUCH MUCH easier to hold on to myself when it really isn't me. That is, if I am holding on to myself and saying, It's not you--he's just struggling and will be ready for ya tomorrow.. well I find it easy to HOM in that situation. I know I am sexy, I know he finds me sexy, it is just a bad night and I need to get past any resentful feelings is all.
When it IS me.......well, that is another ball of wax. But that is a topic for another day. What I wanted to say was that I think if I can keep my wits about me and not fall apart when he is not interested in me, I do know ways of getting him interested.
Honeypot, I haven't read PM yet, but I feel like I know its basic concepts just from spending so much time on this board, and I THINK that that pretty much sums up how it's supposed to work, right there. Congrats!
My challenge -- and I suspect many of the other HD guys on here -- is:
Quote: What I wanted to say was that I think if I can keep my wits about me and not fall apart when he is not interested in me, I do know ways of getting him interested.
... we don't know ANY ways of getting her interested!!!
Choc., who could take the rejection better 90% of the time if there ever CAME a 10% . . .
