Hi Mojo, I started doing this about 3 weeks ago and he really seems to like it. And you know what? I like myself better when I am trying to be a better partner to him. It is a very small effort on my part and he lights up like a Christmas tree. It was nothing more than my own pride which was stopping me before--that, and a desire to not spend an hour of my life talking about things which really don't "do it" for me. But!, I do realize this is an unfair approach to marriage (meet my needs and be my superlover but don't expect me to do things that I don't want to do, sucka) so I now make the effort and we have had some enjoyable conversations. Prior to this, almost all of our conversations about religion would end in arguments.
However, I don't think he is taking it for what it is--an effort on my part to be a better partner to him. Rather I think he thinks that I am "finally seeing the light" and becoming like him, with regards to my faith. I DO feel my own faith deepening...as I gradually lose my resentment over what happened to our marriage...but I will never be like him. I don't aspire to it and the things and attitudes that appeal to him are not my style.
So, while I will not say to him 'hey I'm doing this for you, man' my hope is that I can continue to do this and NOT become resentful because he is completely misinterpreting my intention.
After all, if it makes him happy, isn't that the end goal?
