NOP, My H and I attended a conference in February through our church and the topic was sex. It was an excellent conference, btw. We both loved it.
One of the things they talked about was how many people have trouble "integrating" their sexuality into the rest of the personality. They tend to keep it a separate compartment and only want to take it out on an as needed basis. H and I were laughing at this part cause this fits him to a T.
So I don't think it's so much that he finds pregnancy disgusting, or that he is emotionally uninvolved with this new baby...it's that he can't think of me as his lover and the mother of his children at the same time. He can either enjoy the baby's limbs protruding and completely shelve the sex, or he can not touch my belly at all (which has been his MO) and focus on me as his lover. Now, I am not saying that he should be able to simultaneously stroke my cl*t and rub my belly...that would be a little too weird, lol!...but even after one belly touch he can't get back into the moment. It is ruined for him.
This is perhaps not the best example but he (by his own admission) has a hard time integrating his sexual self into the rest of him.
On a positive note, last night about 6:00 he gave me a hug and had a twinkle in his eye. He said, "I know I am horrible about falling asleep on you night after night...I'm telling you if we could manage to sneak away at this time every day, I would love it!" I replied by jokingly taking his hand and heading off for the bedroom. Now, it was not a good time with the kids..we had just finished dinner and had been promised some playtime with Dad so there was no starting a movie or whatever...but I felt so good to have him acknowledge that he DOES have a horny time of day. I don't know if that stands for every day or not like he said; that was most likely a gross exaggeration. But I was VERY proud of him for even initiating that moment. He keeps saying that early evening is 'his' time so maybe there is hope for when our kids are a little older and more self sufficient, after all.
One of the fantasies we were blabbing about last night during ML was how I would attack him during this time of day and what I would do. Me being HD and eternally optimistic I am wanting to try something today! Somebody slap me and tell me to chill. I need to implement this plan when the baby is here and the 30 lbs is gone; then he will really be receptive to it. But by then I will have a newborn who is commanding all my attention! aaaaaaaaaaaaaghhhhhhhh, will honeypot never get her desire and passion???
