Quote: Please, take my advice and take the tough stand with your spouse and hard look at yourself advocated by SSM and PM. Before I started this process, I told my sister that I thought there was only a 50% chance that my marriage was going to survive the summer. It's August and I'm still married and I hope to remain married. Even if you garner no success in terms of improving your sex life, you will feel much better and stronger within yourself by going through the process of 'differentiation'. This I can promise.
I'm sure if I ever get to the point where I feel my marriage is about over, OR if I'm seriously considering an affair, OR if the celibacy makes me TOTALLY MISERABLE (as opposed to maybe one miserable day a week), I'll do that. As I've posted elsewhere, I fully realize that this is not the long-term answer . . . just a helluva lot less painful for the time being.
Chocolate Eyes, who if he were a steak, would want to be WELL-done...
