I will throw in my thoughts. I agree, I hate 'mercy sex'. I think some guys will take what they can get, but I don't think they are the best lovers either. Probably lean towards the stereotypical male. I got married because I felt something with my W. We had great S, then reality, twins, ex wife, money set in. She strted with Mercy sex. I hated her just laying there. I still hate it.
It makes me feel unattractive that i don't turn her on. I even want to initiate foreplay, but no, it is get on, get off. I don't want to be harsh on her, but that is how it feels to me.
I hate to say this, but sometimes I feel more like the W when I read these boards. Like I understand how you want that being attacked, the knowing. I want her to have the interst in me that I have in her. I can see her and jsut get turned on, but i never catch her looking at me in the morning getting dressed. Yes, I wonder am I not good enough in bed, attractive enough. Why is she not turned on?
Oh well, I just want things like when we started, unrealistic?
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