Quote: Chris, I absolutely have the same fear. After seeing these tireless warriors work SO patiently and diligently on their clashing libido'd marriages, I often wonder how there would be ANY hope for mine, even if I WERE to begin challenging my wife again, which I'm not (for now).
I've been working at this SSM/PM thing for only 4 or 5 monthes and I have seen remarkable improvements in my situation. My H and I are having much more sex, we are talking much more openly and though I am still yo-yoing back and forth a bit, when I feel close to my H, I feel closer than ever. Remember, this board is where we come to discuss problems, only occasionally do we speak of our successes.
Please, take my advice and take the tough stand with your spouse and hard look at yourself advocated by SSM and PM. Before I started this process, I told my sister that I thought there was only a 50% chance that my marriage was going to survive the summer. It's August and I'm still married and I hope to remain married. Even if you garner no success in terms of improving your sex life, you will feel much better and stronger within yourself by going through the process of 'differentiation'. This I can promise.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
