Hey Tom, I need to clarify that the ridiculous thoughts I was talking about were my own thoughts; not H's.
I am the one who will sometimes have this knee jerk reaction (esp while I am preg) of "I am not good enough; I don't have what it takes to turn him on.."
Even though I intellectually KNOW this is horse pucky! It may take me a few minutes but I do come to my senses and realize this. In the past I'd be guilty of seeking reassurance from him in the form of annoying questions like, "Don't you find me attractive anymore??"
I no longer do that because dammit I have eyes..I can look in the mirror and I know that what I see is good stuff. I am tall and slender and have a pretty face. I also have large breasts and I like to dress attractively ALL the time, even though most of my days consist of being home alone with my two small kids. In fact, I have never doubted my attractiveness to other men, just H. I get plenty of other-validation from the world every time I go somewhere. I am still amazed that men look at me while I am carrying 30 lbs of unborn baby, 30 lbs of two year old, a diaper bag, and D4 in my other hand. Now, you might be thinking they are looking at me in a "aw, look at that poor pack mule" way but trust me, I know a LOOK when I get one. lol
And, Tom, the settling issue................ah, this is what I think I was really getting at. Do you think the HD husbands have an easier time of settling with what they have? From the looks of this board, I would guess that they do. I know that I suck at settling. Or accepting his limitations, however you want to phrase it.
