Quote: I suppose what I am saying is that HDW's appear to be much more likely to refuse mercy sex than the fellas. Probably because we as women have been received the message from birth that part of a woman's inherent worth is her desirability. This is specifically related to her femininity, her appearance, etc, and I don't know that the HD men can relate.
You know, this raises an interesting question in my head: is my W LD and not initiating because she's seeing her body/appearance as undesirable? If so, and I initiate sex with her, is she seeing this LM as a mercy f*ck type of thing? Tooo many questions! Hmmmm.
Quote: Do the guys think, "I guess I am just not handsome enough.." and all other sorts of ridiculous thoughts when being rejected?
Not me, 'cause I know I'm damn goooood, even for "an old guy" at 35.
Quote: I think it would be easier to take if society was telling you to not take it personally that women just don't want sex as much, etc. The message we women receive is that OF COURSE it is something personal..no man in his right mind would turn down a passionate woman who wants sex 3 times a week.
You see, regardless of how my W thinks I am, I need the intimacy and EC to really want LM. Sure, I look at other women and wonder "what if" (hey, I'm married but I'm not dead!). I could have meaningless sex with others if I wanted to, but I DON'T want to. I want meaningful sex with my W!! I have a difficult time seeing anything with my W as a mercy f*ck or LM just to be accommodating. Ask me in 6 months after I've PMed the crap outta her and I may answer differently.
Crap, now that I've reread what I've written, I dunno if I answered you sufficiently.
