H just emailed me and asked if I perceive him to be withholding. I do not, btw.

I wrote back that I don't perceive him this way, based on the amount of loving mercy sex he offers me. A truly withholding person would have none o' that.
I did add "However, I don't see you as a passionate person either. Sortof like a drugged person who is happy no matter what happens to him."