Quote: But that approach aint what Momma's in the mood for, LOL! I want a lover who will, occasionally, show me his desire first. And I don't want to have to 'draw' those feelings out of him. This is perhaps where the HDW's and the HDH's part company. I think the fellas are much more willing to work the scene.
I've been saying it ever since I've been on this board. It is much trickier to be a HD "submissive" than a HD "aggressive". There is a subtle difference between being a 'passive' sexual partner and wanting to be a 'submissive' sexual partner, but this difference means a lot to a HDW. I suppose in order to not be sexist, I should state that if there was a HDM who mostly wanted to be sexually dominated then he would have the same problem. I'm sure that, like me, you are capable of being the dominant partner and you probably enjoy it a lot of the time, but it's not really what you're looking for. I suppose we can content ourselves with the fact that our H's act dominant once they get past the initiation hurdle, but still it's frustrating.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
