Another thing to consider:

Last night, before we got into bed, I had a brief scare (I'm not kidding, I thought I heard someone in our closet, LOL! how funny does that sound..) and I ran to get H. He was in the other bathroom and was irritated that I was bothering him.
He got out and said, What WAS it?! Could it not wait til I was done...sheesh you're acting like the kids!
Cause I was banging on the door and saying, H! H! Are ya in there??

I had steeled myself and went to face the boogeyman in the closet, alone. There was of course nobody there, lol. Btw, I NEVER do stuff like this, but my ears were deceiving me I swear!

So he comes out and I looked sheepish and told him my story and he laughed and apologized for getting testy with me. He said over and over, Oh I'm sorry....I couldn't figure out what got into you!
Then he lays back on the bed and I leaned over him and he starts kissing me pretty passionately. I enjoyed it and then went to get ready for bed, anticipating a similar reaction. Well that didn't happen for one reason or another.

But what I wanted to say was that I believe it was my vulnerability and 'softness' that he was reacting to. I am a very strong person and really only show emotion when it comes to either: my children, or being sexually rejected. Otherwise you'd be hard pressed to get me upset about something.

Someone advised me a while back (can't remember who) to try the softness and let him be my hero and see what happens. I said that I so seldom feel like this that I didn't think it would be a workable thing to try. Plus, it is not being genuine to who I really am.

BUT there is something that he is undoubtedly attracted to when I show that side of myself (Boogerman, where are you?? Come visit me every night!:)

The funny thing is that I have never been like this. It would not have been a quality that would have attracted him to me, because if anything I was even more independent and unafraid at 22 than I am now at 33.
So maybe he is responding to it because it is something new?

Not sure, but I think I need to write a note on my hand to remember to show him the kinder and gentler Honey once in a while--he seems to dig her!