See, I consider myself to be more pretty than sexy. People who know me are always surprised to know how into sex I am, if the topic comes up and the friendship has progressed to a level where I feel comfortable sharing my life. I dress sexy but I don't feel that I walk sexy or move sexy or have a sexy voice, or what have you. Maybe I have a weird sense of what being sexy really is, but I rarely feel sexy until H and get going in the sack. My seduction skills are really cruddy.
I do think that men would watch me walkin down the street and say that I'm "hot" or something like that but that is just in regards to my body, not necessarily my style or behavior.
On the other hand, if sexy is defined as a woman who is confident and happy go lucky, then I'm in! I'm also not much of a flirt, although I can be. There are very few men that I'm attracted to and I have no inclination to flirt just for the sake of flirting. I do laugh heartily at innuendos and jokes and stuff and I have noticed that men really respond to that. I am not demure or "mom-like" in that some women I know would respond with a "Oh Bill........". If it's funny I will respond and maybe take it a little further, although not much.
My initiation skills have gotten lots better (although last night would indicate that I'm not very good at it, eh!) but if H were to request that I come up to him and seduce him with my behavior I think I would have a difficult time with that. If I could just come up and drop to my knees, otoh, I'd be fine.
This is clearly a confidence issue and has nothing to do with my H and our dynamics with each other. I was like this in previous relationships as well.
