But see, Nymph, I don't want my H second guessing my motives when I touch him. He needs to be thinking about himSELF and not analyzing what I may or may not be doing. It is my opinion that it is THIS behavior which inhibits his desire, rather than my actual touching.
But I do appreciate the opinion.
Here is how I touch him when I get into bed: He lays on his back. I get in bed and put the BACK of my hand on his stomach or side, much in the way you would approach an angry dog. I have found that the back of my hand is less ticklish and offensive to him than my fingertips. Then when he is acclimated to my fingertips, I flip my hand around and keep it perfectly still. There is no caressing or attempts to touch erogenous zones.
See........the very FACT that I was touching him was flipping him out. It had nothing to do with my intentions or the manner in which I was touching. It was the fact that I was touching him (the back of my hand, for goodness sakes!) and he didn't want me to. This really offends and bothers him. He considers it a violation of his space.
I suppose you could make a case for that but then again I could make a pretty strong case for the countless times DAILY when he invades my personal earball space with his discussions on religion and faith.
I don't know how this is coming off...I hope it is not argumentative! I am just outspoken and IRL you would know that b/c I'd be saying all this with an exasperated smile and a drink in my hand. (provided the pg was over, mind you..)
