Hey guys, Well my H has always said, Don't just do something subtle, you've got to let me know without a doubt that you want sex. Just grab it (that is what he prefers) or get on top of me.
How am I supposed to grab it in light of the wax on/wax off sheot? He is hysterical!!
He really does want me to initiate but only on a night when he's horny. Now.......I don't read minds and though I am pretty good at reading his body language, I absolutely refuse to only initiate on a night when he's in the mood. There are night when I'm not in the mood and I do NOT reject him because I know how it feels. Ok, these nights are few and far between but still.....
That's not even the point. The point is that I want the freedom to go with what feels natural to me. If he wants to reject it, fine. Do it in a more mature way and furthermore make sure that this is not the rule. If you say that you want your spouse to be more aggressive and forthcoming with affection and initiation then gosh dammit you'd better be willing to be receptive to it!!!!!!
Otherwise just say "I only want to have sex when: I am not tired; I am in the mood; I am not irritated with you or the kids; I have had some time to myself; you have shown the proper amount of affection; it is not past 9:00; and you are not pregnant."
Now that is a list I can work with!
I have to meet him at 10:30 and I am trying to keep the EC going, even though I'm irritated with him. Gotta go get gussied up and show him what he was missin out on last night.
