How do you and the hubby shave down south and keep it from getting stubly and itching? I would love to get the wife this way, but she does not like the uncomfortablness of the stuble. It sure has to help a person feel sexier!
It does get stubbly but I have never noticed a whole lot of itching. Then again, I am a pretty tolerant person. My H, however, is a total fussbudget and even he doesn't mind it.
I think it is a matter of the pluses outweighing the minuses, is all.
If you were asking specifically how do we shave down south (ie, what method) we basically use a razor. H shaves with his electric trimmer to get it mostly bare and then uses a regular razor to finish it. I use a scissors (as opposed to the trimmer..don't like the power tool sound so close to the goods) to trim and then finish it with a really sharp razor. I have never had it professionally waxed--and H would die to know that people even do this for a living--but perhaps when our finances are a little more stable and I can actually afford a few hrs away from the home for such a luxury.
Sometimes H even shaves his chest and stomach too, although I am not crazy about that. THAT stubbly-ness makes it hard for me to lay on top of him. However, he likes it and he feels better when he takes these steps towards making himself attractive to me, so I say nothing. I am not overly fond of chest hair (I admitted that once and I think this is why he does it) but it doesn't bother me or turn me off. I would just choose a bare chest over a hairy one is all. And I'd choose my H's chest over any other out there, so it really doesn't matter.
Jojo, Good to know! Thanks for the tip. I have lots of baby oil, being the mom of young kids. I don't actually USE it on the kids (what are you supposed to use it for anyhow?) but people like to give it as a gift, so I have a few bottles.
Gosh if I could actually SEE my *****, I would be inspired to go try it right now.
Now......not being able to SEE your parts.....that is a recipe for missing a stray or 100! lol
After awhile you really go by touch and how it feels anyway. I'm surprised that you never tried that old trick.
I wish someone would actually care to see if I still had one.... I pity the poor SOB when that happens.... Talk about the atom bomb going off.....
I never thought that horneypot would have to wonder what to use all that baby lotion for..... Sensual massages come to mind, but NOT good for a foot massage... Ooops, bum hitting the floor!!!
Jo, You gotta be kiddin me. I have an entire bottle of massage oil that literally has dust stuck to the outside of it. I ask for massages all the time and you can imagine how often I get one! I asked for one last night and struck out.
The LAST use I would think of for oil is massage. Seems I have learned a thing or two about what is a possibility and what is just a pipe dream.
I have tried going by touch but I still seem to miss entire areas that are wet from the shower or something. Maybe this preg will retrain me to get better at the touch and rely on my eyeballs less.
Oh Jo, I don't doubt that the fella who has the pleasure of discerning whether you still have one will be in for the ride of his life. What a joyous time of his life that will be!
I have really sensitive skin so I use this product called TendSkin. It's pretty expensive and you can only buy it over the internet, but it really works.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
First I should preface by saying that this is going to be an incredibly busy week for us. All of it was brought on by me, and all of it is my responsibility and activities. For some reason, this still stresses H out. He said that he was feeling lots of stress about the week and I pointed out that it was all things that I have to do and be present for...what exactly is he stressed about? He didn't know.
Now on to the good stuff. Our EC was rock solid last night. He even threw a tizzy fit at one point and I stayed calm and paid no attention to him. He thanked me later and professed amazement that I did not take his bait. (I am a hothead and esp so during pregnancy) I told him that he was not worth the rise in my blood pressure, lol. We went to bad happy and satisfied with each other.
Then I made the fatal mistake of trying to touch him. Not touch him in an erogenous zone but merely TOUCH him. His hands flew up like that dork from the Karate Kid, trying to wax me on and off. I persisted in a loving and bemused way, trying to let him know that a wife wanting to touch her husband is not a freakish thing worthy of that sort of drama. He said, "You're trying to tickle me." I replied that I wasn't even MOVING my hand; it was completely still. So we laid like that for a while and he shifted his weight. My hand fell off his side where it was innocently resting ( ) and landed on his penis. He then really started freaking out and we had a tussle where he was trying with all his might to get my hand removed and I was trying to keep it there. He won, since he is tons stronger than me, but I put up a good fight.
Then he launches into this spiel about just wanting to go to sleep tonight, etc. We are both still in excellent moods at this time. I reminded him that his specific request from me on both Thurs and Fri was that I show more nonsexual affection and initiate if I want sex, instead of wanting sex and sitting around waiting for him to step up to the plate. We have had this convo before, btw, and I have always given up on it far too soon b/c he has a VERY hard time accepting my initiations and I get pissy after a while.
He said, "I know I asked for this type of thing but I just don't want it tonight." I said, "So I should wait until a night when you already want it and then just beat you to the punch? What about when I want it? How does that play into the equation?" He said it does but just not tonight.
Then I felt creeping resentment showing up. I started making these immature and snarky comments which he ignored. We talked for a while longer and then before I went to sleep I said, "H I have to tell you that I am mildly irritated with how you received my initiation tonight but I am still sorry for all the dumb wisecracks." He looked genuinely surprised and said, You ARE irritated? I said, Of course I am. I am trying to do what you requested of me, as well as trying to go with what feels good and natural to me at the moment, and you are blocking that. He made no reply and we went to bed.
Today I still feel that mild irritation. This has been a long standing argument of ours. He says, "Honey, if you want more sex, then just GO FOR IT. Stop waiting for me to do all the work because I just don't think of it as often as you do." So I do and this is what happens 8 out of 10 times. You know, I'm only human. There is no human being who will continually subject themselves to rejection and yet keep on tryin with a happy face and optimistic heart! It doesn't work that way!
I can understand that he just didn't feel like it last night but I think he could have sucked it up, in light of the fact that he JUST requested all this from me 3 days prior. Don't present something as a viable solution if you have no intention of following through with it. Grrr!
Today I have a really busy day and will have no time to think and ponder on all this. As you all know, this is a good thing for me.
Quote: His hands flew up like that dork from the Karate Kid, trying to wax me on and off.
At this point, you should have gone into the Albatross Stance, while standing on the bedpost. He would have been rendered powerless before you.
Quote: So I do and this is what happens 8 out of 10 times. You know, I'm only human. There is no human being who will continually subject themselves to rejection and yet keep on tryin with a happy face and optimistic heart! It doesn't work that way!
I try to tell my W this. And with me, it's more like 88 times out of 90. It is not only hard to keep trying with a happy face, it is hard to face the day with a happy face. But somehow, I manage it most of the time. Thanks, Effexor!
Hairdog - hoping HP's "busyness" doesn't keep her too far away from the SSM board this week.
I know what you mean about the touching. My W wants the same thing - non-S touching. But when I do she alwasy says it is tickling. Or irritating. Then she jumps and I feel like she is repulsed by my touch.
As for the hand on the penis thing, just going for it is a mixed feeling for me. Sometimes when she initiates she just grabs it. Not alwasy the thing to do. As the HD in my R I still like a little foreplay.
Have fun running around this week.
There are 3 sides to every situation: yours, mine and the truth. Knowing the difference is the key.
) and landed on his penis. He then really started freaking out and we had a tussle where he was trying with all his might to get my hand removed and I was trying to keep it there. He won, since he is tons stronger than me, but I put up a good fight.