Quote: He doesn't have any sexual thoughts about me, ever. He doesn't see me as a sexy person, as others do
NOP, he has told me several times that he does not have sexual thoughts about me, in general. Last night he did admit that he sometimes thinks about sex the morning after we have it (reliving it) but from then on he has no thoughts of sex with me, or thoughts about me being sexy, etc.
Most of what I write comes straight from the horses's ass...oops, I mean mouth. I try not to guess what's going on inside his head, with the exception of the excitement I felt yesterday over his impending horniness.
Here is what he told me about finding me sexy: He does when we are ML. Otherwise he is not thinking of me that way. Despite the fact that I flirt with him, or make innuendos, or dress sexy, etc. I do think he remembers when we are out in public and OTHERS look at me with that certain twinkle. But that still doesn't make him look at me as a sexy momma, then he is just focused on what azzholes the rest of the world is populated with.
This is a real hangup of his and has nothing to do with the preg. He does not think of sex, plan for it, keep it fresh in his mind, etc. Being sexual is as much a frame of mind as it is a bodily or hormonal function. There are too many "formerly LD" ladies to think otherwise. And to read their posts, what is it that did the trick? Keeping it fresh in their minds. THEM keeping it fresh in THEIR minds.
My H has become reliant on me to provide him with the desire. Now that I am not visually appealing to him any longer, he is floundering because his desire has no foundation to it. He thinks he is asking me to fan the flames with the affection request but really he is asking me to build the damn fire from the ground up.
Neglectedpot
P.S. I am in dire need of your dad to slap me around and give me some witty saying to get me to shape up and snap out of it.
