HD,
Too late.
I already told him that during D4's pregnancy.

Folks, here is where I'm at right now: I think I am just now realizing that not only is he feeling little desire, but what small amounts of desire is there, I am killing it. Both with my shape and my lack of affection, which makes him feel 'safe' enough to want to initiate.
Now the second thing I can do something about and I already told him I would work on it. The first thing?

Well if that isn't the cruelest freakin thing! I mean I cannot HELP it what I look like or hug like or walk like. It is a short amount of time away......why can't he just pretend?

I repeat:

WHY CAN'T HE JUST PRETEND THAT HE FEELS DESIRE FOR ME RIGHT NOW?

If he has said that it will return upon the birth of the baby, then wtf is stopping him from just...faking...it.
Just fake it a couple times a week. What does it hurt?

It would save me a lot of hurt feelings and him a lot of headache. Is his pride/integrity/whatever that important to him that he'd rather crush me than just suck it up for a couple months?
Why do LD people appear to be so cruel sometimes?

Because I get the positive affirmation from the rest of the world. Today at the dentist I had two people tell me how great I look for being this far along, etc.
And, while he does not ultimately alter what I think of myself, he sure makes it necessary for me to have to keep reaffirming myself. It is unspeakably hard to know that others find me attractive--EVEN IN THIS STATE--and he doesn't. I still feel like the same person..sexy, outgoing, happy..but to know that his perception of me is contingent on the external me just SUCKS!

I find it a bit like if I were to say to him: Honey, I know you just got your leg amputated but I find my desire is waning. I'd sure like it if you were still able to do jumping jacks.

Last night he asked me to give him a hug. I was on my side facing him and he was on his back. I put my arm on him and massaged his shoulder and chest. He said (snorted, really, I'm telling you he was being uncharacteristically mean) "That's a hug?"
I said, H I have a body pillow in between us, supporting my massive belly. I can't GET any closer to you unless I remove it and that would have taken a huge effort and prolly some grunts from me. I was trying to avoid embarrassing myself.

I think the fact that I try to play things off and act like the 'same old me' has him feeling disoriented. Like he thinks I am holding back on him when, in reality, I just can't f*ckin reach him!

Man you would think this was our first baby or something.

So since I have already posted loads of stuff that make me sound like the world's biggest emotional wimp, let me add this:

I think it really reeks that I am now turning him OFF. Fine, I can handle that I'm no longer turning him on. But I know my H and he is actually horny after a week of no sex. So to know that there is no horniness inside him means that he is either really talking himself out of sex (which he did for months in the past) or he is being turned off. Folks, I KNOW it is the baby and not me but gosh dammit that baby is inside of ME. So if he ignores the baby, he ignores me.

Selfish bastard, why can't he lie and just pretend that he still wants me? I would probably never know the difference and what would it hurt?