Mr. Wilson does not want me to spontaneously kiss and hug him more, but he gets peeved in the same way, but more passive-aggressively, if I don't accept him "being nice" as a substitute for sex. The theory that he is desperately clinging to is that I am emotionally needy and therefore any sign of affection will do. I have hopes that he will one day drop his cloak of denial and admit that his wife simply has a higher sex drive than him.
The thing that sucks is that there is no way to win. I know we've had this discussion before, HP. Either we are needy emotional wimps or we are cold psycho-sluts. Probably both as far as our H's are concerned. Think about how convenient this reasoning is for them. If our needs are endless, no man could possibly meet them, so they don't need to feel bad about their manliness. If we are cruel and cold robots of hornyness, no man would want to have sex with us, so why should they? This is why you brought up your sister-in-law's comment as a way to justify your argument and this is why I'm doing things to inspire a bit of jealousy in my H. We are trying to make them doubt their point of view. It is very hard to do it on our own. How can we prove that we are not endlessly needy or cold psycho-sluts? We have no witnesses in our defense. Should we get letters of testimony from old boyfriends saying "She was horny and great in bed, but I found that 3x a week was enough to keep her satisfied. She was also very nice. I appreciated the chocolate chip cookies and the way she helped me study for my Calc exams.".
This probably isn't very helpful. I am whiny and bitter, but NOT needy and cold and neither are you.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
