You're kind of hitting around the edges of what I was trying to say when I asked about the frequency one actually desires vs. the frequency one perceives that they desire. The issue then was that I was ALWAYS horny and ALWAYS wanting sex. But I didn't feel that my mind was in place where I could accurately judge my desires. I know this isn't making much sense, but the issue came up in trying to set realistic expectations of how often we should ML in order to keep me reasonably happy. If W was available for enthusiastic sex any time I wanted it, would my level of desire be any different than when she's never willing?
That sort of fits with your question about how much is just horniness and how much is due to other reasons. Lately I’ve been getting laid about once a week, and although I still want more than that, I can see a difference in my attitude and desire. When I’m reasonably assured that I will get laid in the foreseeable future, it kind of takes the edge off of the constant horny feeling.
Now if I could just get her to two or three times a week…
