Joyrides and Backslides--The Story of Us

[MJontheMend]

So how about it? How do you handle your crabbiness and is your spouse understanding of it at all?

If you read my last post on the PM REVIEW thread, you will learn that a lightbulb finally went on for my H and he now knows that my crabbyness can probably be alleviated with an offer of sex. I think he was really confusing me with his mother who is one of the most emotionally-fused and needy people on the planet. I now believe that he equated my sex drive directly with emotional neediness. Of course, it didn't help that being sex-starved did eventually make me feel desperate for validation. I think he saw every request for sex as a pathetic cry of "Do you love me?" rather than a frustrated scream of "I am horny!". Of course, it didn't help that being sex-starved did eventually make me feel desperate for validation and my natural reaction to frustration is to cry. It also didn't help that my style wasn't conventionally sexy. He probably rationalized that if I really just wanted sex, I'd do more to look sexy.

Of course, the big problem with this theory is that it goes against the PM guideline that spouses really know their partners very well. However, it goes very well with our HDW theory that LDH's are CLUELESS!!