For me, this is a real thing. The interesting thing is that it is a real thing with H, also, although he didn't know that's what his crabbiness was due to until recent yrs of regular sex. However, there is no question that my crabbiness comes much earlier than his. On Day 3, I am getting antsy and the things that I would normally blow off are making me testy. By Day 7, I am getting to be a basketcase and no longer rational.
Is this fusion? I really don't think so.
If I am to believe that my H's libido is caused by both mental and physical factors (which I do), then why is this an unreasonable thing for him to accept? I know that his body just does not want as much sex as my own. Getting past his mental blocks has increased the sex fantastically and I'm sure it will continue to improve as we both progress. But STILL he will not want it as much as me; I think we both agree on that. And I'm fine with it! Because we are close enough that it shouldn't cause that much of a conflict, really.
So shouldn't he be fine with me getting crabby after a certain number of days has gone by? After all, it is not mental crabbiness...well it is...but it is also a physical reaction to no bodily release. It is not me being selfish or a baby or overreacting or being a nympho. It is just how I feel! It is the same as if he was to go a long period of time without eating. Sure he could mentally get past it and remain cheerful, but there is also an element of bodily discomfort that he would be working against. That is, it ISN'T all in my mind or my greedy personality.
H is actually quite understanding of my crabbiness as long as it has been a week or so. He is not very understanding of my Day Three attitude but even I think I need to get a grip on that, lol!
So how about it? How do you handle your crabbiness and is your spouse understanding of it at all?
